I've been work work work work working on my shit Now get this work, now get this work
The last two mornings, this song has been in my head when I woke up! Perhaps reminding me to wake up and get to working on my shit? I think so.
My shit? Being a higher functioning, whole-hearted living, God following, healthier human. A better version of myself than I was the day before.
SELF LOVE = WORKING ON MY SHIT
I while ago I listened to Kick Ass by Mel Robbins. It's effing awesome by the way and you should totally listen to it! In one of the coaching sessions, her client has this profound discovery that EVERYONE needs to hear!
Self-love isn't superficial. It's not just about getting your nails done or taking a bubble bath. It's about figuring your shit out and dealing with it.
I listened to her say that once and then backed it up and re-listened several times. TRUE DAT LADY! TRUE DAT!
Figuring your shit out, or Working on your shit in Iggy's terms, is an ongoing process. It's not like you can figure it all out at once. Just like actual shit. You can't just take one big dump in your entire life. Shit builds up and you regularly get it out. Sorry for the visual, but I was dying laughing thinking about that comparison! So what has working on my shit looked like for me?
The best thing I've done for myself was go to therapy. I didn't THINK I had much shit. Turns out I kind of did. I first made the appointment to work on my depression, then found myself opening up about something hard that I'd never told anyone in my entire life. It was fucking awful and fucking fabulous at the entire time. I finally felt a freedom I'd never felt before in my life.
I read and listen to a whole lot of self-development books and podcasts! In my younger years, I thought I didn't really have time to do so. I've learned now that if I can get myself to just read 5 minutes of something that will encourage my brain, my world seems to give me more time!
I have a personal health/wellness coach who is there for me constantly. I reach out to her when I'm struggling to keep my healthy habits in check. I talk to her about the stupid reasons I can't seem to get myself to eat healthy. She encourages me. She gives me ideas. She is the reason I became one too!
I have been working with a life-coach. At this point in my life, I felt like a life-coach would provide more value to me than a therapist. I was on the fence between going back to therapy or hiring a life coach. What I yearned for was the feeling of change again and that freedom I felt after going to therapy. But I wanted to focus more on the future, not the past. So my decision was made. Life-coach it is! I find it incredible and somewhat ridiculous how much a third-party perspective can change your life...if you allow it to.
And now for your listening pleasure...